Some Clarifications, for Friends.

December 19, 2013 § 74 Comments

Well today was a much better day than yesterday!  As most of my friends and family know I have been in a lot of media circuits lately, that is really really awesome and I am SUPER glad that more intentional and sustainable ways to live are becoming ‘trendy’ that is not however why I started this project, it has nothing to do with that.  I am a very very small part of the entire tiny house community, the notion of living smaller and more intentional lives with less financial strain is not new, or unique, this is merely my version of it!  I started this because this is my life, I am an intentional person, I wanted to learn about construction, I want to try out different technologies, I want to inspire and teach others on some level I didn’t want to pay rent, I didn’t want to be a slave to a bank again, I want to be self reliant.  Honestly when I started I don’t think I expected anyone but my family to ever visit my page and even that was a stretch.  I posted diligently as I worked my tail off mostly as a challenge to myself.  I have made so many friends through this process and have been so lucky to help ad a little part of my shape to the tiny house community which is really just some of the most amazing, thoughtful and genuine people I have had the pleasure of interacting with.  I have no idea why but all of the sudden, 2 years after the start of my build I am done and just following through on the deal and posting about how it is to actually live in a tiny house (because that is critical to know too!) and it has gained popularity.  That’s cool!  Not at all why I did this though but very cool none the less, I’m so glad this idea appeals to others!  There are several sensationalized articles about my story though which have been circulating that make it seem like this is a project born out of necessity, it’s not.  This is a very calculated and intentional action on my part to better my career, to better my life and to just do something I thought was cool!  I in no way require extra media attention but I am SO glad to be able to be an inspiration to some.  All that being said, I almost shut the whole thing down yesterday!

People are cruel!  Comment after comment attacking me as a person, attacking my values in life, my choices, false assumptions about my financials, my political affiliations, my child, my family, my dog.  All things that are so deeply personal to me, and all very harshly criticized from people who know very little about me and have never ever met me.  I know you have to have thick skin for this crap but I didn’t ask for it and I was not ready for it, I just wanna do my projects people!  If it’s not your thing you don’t have to look!  I’m not sure what happened to the saying ‘if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all’.  Yesterday it brought me to tears, if you are one of the few reading this that does actually know me you KNOW how hard that is to do!   Like I say, today is a much better day, I chose not to read any comments made on the posts about my project and my life. (Except one well written post (though based on the same false premises) which has had VERY VERY few negative comments (I read maybe 3-4 out of over 2000, yes, I read them all because they were so positive!), Viral Nova, I am impressed with how you write and with your audience because those people made me feel great and it is how you write about the content that starts the conversation off on a positive note!  Thank you for your coverage even though the facts are slightly off.

Ok, so, I shook it off, I made some smart ass remarks to the most cruel of the commenters (though they were kept respectful because two wrongs don’t make a right and pretty quick I will have to teach a tiny human these things, and the best way to teach is by example!).  So, for those of you who were cruel (I doubt any of them actually found their way to my site, usually they just judge from afar) mission accomplished, you hurt me.  I hope it’s out of your system and you can go on living a little lighter now, I have nothing for you but kindness.  I don’t stay down too long and what you may not know or even care to acknowledge is that I lead an amazing life in my own right, I have helped to make it that way (I promise, its not all dumb luck though there is PLENTY of that).  I hope everyone is as lucky as me though sadly I know they aren’t.  I hope I can be an inspiration of sorts for someone even through the hateful comments, I hope others don’t get down and stop their dreams because of men people.  Your life matters and it’s important to follow your guts!  I am always here to ask questions, to give advice on things I have experience with when wanted, I want nothing but to help others.  For the cruel people out there, you don’t win, this is still my project, my house and I am loving it as I sit here, debt free (like completely, it CAN happen, I just paid off my car this month! wewt!) in my tiny house, built with my own two hands, drinking my cocoa with my handsome (but poor poor abused, as some tend to think) Denny Dog curled up on top of me!  He has a whole house, all be it a tiny one and he chooses to nap ON ME.  And I love him for it!  Life is good, some people are mean.  I’m moving forward.

I should also note, because it is FAR more important I have received some of the kindest messages I have ever seen over the last few days, those are FAR more precious to me.  I have not had time to respond to all yet because they are all coming at once and way faster than I can reply, rest assured, if you wrote me you WILL hear back from me.  If you don’t in the nest 5 days, please nudge me again, I am trying my best not to overlook anyone!  THANK YOU to all the kind people, so much!  Like Mr. Rogers’ mom said, ‘look for the helpers’.  There are a lot of helpers in the world, a lot of very nice people, you make the world a better place, or at least MY world better!

Some really great things that I have had the opportunity to take part in just because I decided to do this crazy little project and document it.  These are things I NEVER even thought would remotely happen, those wild cards you keep on you bucket list that you don’t REALLY expect to come true 🙂

  • I’ve been in a movie (TINY: A Story About Living Small).
  • I have been filmed for hours and will be on Extreme Homes on HGTV next month! (January 2014).
  • I have been on a live network interview across the nation.
  • I have met some of the most kick ass people I never knew existed! HERE
  • I’ve gotten to be interviewed on the radio.
  • I will be published in a book next spring, more on that as it develops.
  • I get to be a speaker at the first ever Tiny House Conference in North Carolina next April (with MiniMiller)
  • I built my own frickin house!
  • I have been published in magazines.
  • I was on the front page of the 4th most traffic website in the whole world!
  • I have inspired strangers, they told me so! (could be my favorite of all)

So, even though some people are mean I am getting to do so many amazing things that I would have never got to do if I didn’t step out, take a risk and follow my gut to do what I wanted to do!  Who knows what more is to come!

With all of that, some of the most common questions I have seen are answered here:

  1. Contrary to what a lot may think, I am not doing this to promote any business scheme, this has been my own personal project and hobby for the last two years, that is all.  I did not start this blog to make money (though I have been doing ok there surprisingly!), I started this blog to document what I am doing and how the house is put together so that when I need to pound a hole in the wall I know where the wires are etc… and the own personal goal from my bucket list of keeping a blog, I just think they are neat.   I have a very good job that I love a lot, doing very different kinds of architecture.
  2. I am not going to build any more tiny houses, I am not going to force them on anyone, this is my own personal project done for my own hands on experience.  They are HARD, they take HUGE amounts of dedication and strength and hard damn work!  One is enough!
  3. My dog is not abused, he is VERY spoiled if anything.  Great Danes are very calm and docile dogs, a hyper dog would not do well in a tiny place in my opinion, I’ve owned a chihuahua, it would be much more cruel to make him live here, that little guy needed room, Denny, he is happy as a clam to nap on my lap all day, or in my bed (he is much better at the stairs now!)… and we do get out quite a bit.
  4. This is not the product of a divorce, that happened SEVERAL years prior and has zero bearing on any of this, I am not even sure how it got thrown into the mix… it’s very strange to me.
  5. I did go through a foreclosure, I could have paid the mortgage, the bank would not take my ex’s name off the loan, they forced the foreclosure saying that it was my only option.  Still I tried to do right and sell the house, no beans, our systems is very topsee-turvey right now.  I have been in the guts of the market crash, I have seen how mishandled and misappropriated bank loans are, I won a lawsuit with them because THEY mismanaged.  They lost me as a customer, and I lost my house which turned out to be for the best, even though it was horrible for a lot of years (not an exaggeration at all, 2007-2012) of my life.  Happy to talk further about this if there are opinions but do not judge me on it, I did more than most and everything to ‘make things right’.  I do not ever want to be dependent on a bank again, especially for my home.
  6. The kid (the one I will be having in March :)) will be very well loved and adored by BOTH of her parents.  I do not happen to believe in marriage, never really have, I believe in love and kindness, that is my driving force.  Marriage in my experience is the ‘best way to ruin a relationship’ (I may be jaded 😉 ).  That said, I LOVE that other people feel differently!  To each their own.  Her dad is not out of the picture though, like it was greatly assumed, he will be very involved in raising his daughter too and, like me can’t wait to meet her!  He shares a lot of the same ideals that I do.  She will be just fine and will have two parents who love her more than the world and a whole bunch of family, all in town, from both sides!
  7. She will sleep in a co-sleeper which I am building that will be located right next to my bed, I will be making a rail for the loft (though it’s more for Denny cause hes a klutz and rolls way too close to the edge of the bed for my comfort!)
  8. Babies do not NEED a high chair, a stroller, a crib, a playpen, a this or a that… babies need love, they need support, they need shelter, they need food and they need sleep.  She will have everything she needs and more!
  9. This is not a retirement home.  I have a three year plan for living here.  You can see hints of my next big project starting to pop up on the right of the screen :).  I intend to build a slightly bigger but still very small strawbale house on a foundation for my next home/office.
  10. The medical bills for the broken back and foot did cost slightly more than the house, it was not ‘worth it’ but accidents happen, I do not regret it.  I was able to pay off all of my medical bills and if you add that into the cost of the house I am still sitting around $100.00/s.f. which is pretty close to the going rate.  Without med bills my house is about half that, slightly less.

Please people, if there is one thing I have learned it is that I will never read the ‘news’ the same again, take EVERYTHING with a grain of salt.  Be kind and respectful.  Internet machos are hurtful, I have grown some thicker skin, I just hope others don’t get discouraged all together by people like the commenters I have got the joy of hearing from!  Thank you to every single supporter, if you’ve contacted me you will hear back from me, give me a couple days to catch up! 🙂

And some pictures to end on, I hope everyone has a VERY merry Holiday season!

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§ 74 Responses to Some Clarifications, for Friends.

  • You rock! “I built my own frickin house!” Not many people can say that, especially the “know-it-all’s” that sit all day long in front of a screen jealously dissing other people’s dream lives.
    Keep it up!

  • R says:

    Such a beautiful post from an obviously beautiful person. Be well and (just as you are doing) try not to mind the internet trolls. There are plenty of people like me who see what you are doing as pretty awesome!

  • Beautiful story. YOU are an inspriation and uplifting young lady! May all of your dreams come true Macy. I have read lots of comments and I have seen the negative remarks. Life is what it is and YOU are the one that will continue to live the dream!

  • gideon bronte says:

    yes! keep it up

  • Macy,
    Some people just suck. I’m so sorry you are getting some haters. Author Brene Brown talks about the concepts of vulnerability and creativity being joined like Siamese twins. You can’t have one without the other. Hang in there and be true to yourself. In the end we all have to look at ourselves in the mirror, not at our haters.
    On the notes of babies and space. You are SO VERY right! A space to sleep on, a cloth sling/carrier to be close to mom/dad, milk to drink and lots of love. That’s all they need, especially for the first 6-9 months. The big brother doggie is just a bonus!
    Keep doin your thing, girl.

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you Courtney, both for your kind words and very true statements but also for your encouragement and support when it comes to MiniMiller, there is so much I don’t know but it just doesn’t seem like a baby should require hundreds of extra square feet and all the ‘stuff’ that goes with it! Denny is going to be a great big brother! 🙂

  • Jaycee Holman says:

    As someone who actually DOES know you in real life. I think you are pretty damn awesome and an inspiration to those around you. Your baby girl will be so very lucky to have you as a Mom. #8 is my favorite because you are 100% correct. My baby is 14 now and she doesn’t need the iPhone, laptop, iPad, car, etc., she really just needs my love, support and guidance. Love you girl. You rock.

    • Macy M says:

      Awww Jaycee! Thank you SO much for your comment, and your parenting support, if I can manage to do half as well as you at raising my kiddo I will be happy! 🙂 YOU rock!

  • Alyssa B says:

    It’s remarkable how cruel people can be when hiding behind a computer screen. Reading the comments on almost any blog post or You Tube video can make you lose faith in the entire human race. Keep your chin up, none of us need to live our lives to please others or fit into anyone else’s vision of the right path in life. You are brave! Following a non-conventional life path is HARD! Also remember that people with negative opinions are usually more motivated to post remarks than those with positive thoughts. And as a hopeful future tiny houser with two dogs I can pretty well guarantee that my dogs couldn’t care less how big our house is. They get their exercise outside in the world, being inside is for rest and relaxation. And yes, paradoxically danes are fabulous dogs for small spaces. I love your blog, am totally jealous of your tiny house and can’t wait to see your upcoming straw bale home.

    Cheers Macy! Sending much love and positivity your way 😀

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you SO much Alyssa, I appreciate ALL of your words! I wish you all the luck on your future tiny house, please let me know if I can help in any way! 🙂

  • ronjf1 says:

    Macy,

    You are singing a great song. Your voice is beautiful.

  • suzannah and la says:

    Haters gonna hate, Macy. What you are doing and who you are is a beautiful thing.La and. I are inspired by you and can’t wait to see you in person in April!!

    Happiest of holidays to you and yours!

  • b says:

    It is easy for some to throw rocks from the safety of their computer screen. So sorry you have to explain anything, but perhaps it will give courage to someone who thinks “they” cannot accomplish a fraction of what you have to date. Keep at it- your life. Your dog, baby and boyfriend are lucky to have you in their lives….there are more GOOD people then poop-heads out there.

    On a professional note: check out ‘The Last Straw” (http://dev.thelaststraw.org/)– their hard work has gotten straw bale construction issues into the national building codes. I’ve built several strawbale homes- a wonderful process and experience. The spaces are amazing!

    • Macy M says:

      That is my biggest hope, some sort of encouragement to others to forge on! You are right, I have seen it, there ARE way more good people that poops! 🙂 I will definitely check into that, and add them to my resources, that’s great!! I’ve wanted to pick their brains about their code work, would be great to know for the tiny house community too! Thanks for the support and the link!

  • kristiewolfe says:

    I’m so happy for all the attention you’ve been getting, you and your house are magnificent! I’m also so excited to see the baby thing play out, while I don’t have kids I am surrounded by 12 nieces and nephews. Suffice to say they do have soo much unnecessary stuff and I always think why does such a small being require so much crap! ha

    Happy Happy Holidays,

    Kristie

    • Macy M says:

      Hahaha! I often wonder the same thing! I m excited to see how it shakes out too, it will be an adventure! (SO glad its a girl!) Thanks for the congrats, I can’t wait to follow your big Hawaiian adventure! 🙂

  • Will says:

    (I found my way here via Yahoo via reddit.)

    People are jerks in general.

    The jerkiness is increased when they’re anonymous, the effort required to be a jerk is low, and they’re facing an idea that challenges their perception of the world and how it works, bonus jerkiness of that idea might suggest that they missed out/could have done something differently. Don’t let it get you down, those people don’t know you.

    That said, good work, the house is beautiful. I think the key to an actual pleasantly livable tiny house is finish quality, and it looks like you knocked it out of the park.

    Will

  • JP says:

    Love the house. Genius approach, and although small, keeps the modern touch. Please keep the blueprint handy should I need it in the future. No idea why people would spend time being mean when all you did was find a way to make things work. Keep it up!

  • Terri Rosselli says:

    I’ve been in the spotlight myself, and you are so right,,people can be cruel. But I’ve come to understand that their “fear based” opinions are something they cannot figure out how to deal with, so they post. It’s difficult for most to step out of the “safe zone” and into the “Faith zone” as Joel Osteen once said,,as you did. Living with intention forces people to be responsible and accountable,,and some cannot do that either. You have found your true Spirit, and are not afraid of it,,as some can be. Continue to be the inspiration that you are,,,keep growing that thicker skin, and know that those of us that understand and agree with your choices and lifestyle support you in your endeavors!!! I’ve been watching Master Treehouses for awhile now, and the ‘Tiny house” concept has been one that I’m very interested in myself. Please let us know when your book is going to be available!! Continued Blessings to you!!!

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you Terri, your words are great! I will be sure to update, I am getting jazzed to figure out the book (one more thing to check off that bucket list!) 🙂 Happy Holidays!

  • Jed says:

    Hi Macy,

    I stumbled upon your site today googling random tiny houses. I didn’t bother to view any comments or negative posts, but I felt compelled to comment on this…

    I have been looking at this blog for just 5 minutes, and I’m already inspired not only by the house, but by your spirit. This is an incredible endeavor, and your dedication to the documentation of the process will surely be invaluable to many others.

    I am adding “Build Tiny House” to my own bucket-list.

    So, keep up the awesome work and stay positive!!

    Cheers and good luck, Jed

    • Macy M says:

      Awesome, I am glad to be able to inspire even just a little, thank you SO much for your kindness and taking a second to write that! Happy Holidays and best wishes!

  • SC says:

    I agree with you…What ever happened to ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. My wife blogs (although, with a much lower profile) about alternative eating habits and has had to endure some mean and just odd commenters. Keep on with your life doing what you think is right. I think tiny living is awesome and am envious of your fortitude to see it through. Congratulations on your success!

    • Macy M says:

      I still consider myself pretty low profile :). I would actually be interested in your wife’s blog, sounds intriguing! Thank you so much for your kind words!

  • Chasity says:

    If it wasn’t for the inspiring photos and story I saw on Face book, I’d have never known. I’d have missed out on this way of life. I’d have missed out on getting to meet you (in a round about way). I’ve been positively enlightened because of you. It’s sad the world has to take such harsh negativity when an individual only wants to bring a glimpse of something so positive into this world. You have created a beautiful life for yourself. I admire this about you. Stay strong. Don’t let the ugly world bring you down to it’s miserable level. I’m a better person for getting to read about you and your life. I hope in the future to bring you onto my talk show and let’s continue to share with the world the beauty you’ve envisioned and created.

  • Mikaela says:

    Love the house and your blog, Macy. I often think how bad it would be to be inside the head of a hater (or share a house with one 🙂 ). You’re not, so you can delete/ignore their comments and get on with doing the stuff you want to do – it looks like very little stops you when you get going! And best of luck with your baby, they really don’t need all that stuff.

    • Macy M says:

      I think it must be a sad place to be that way! I just stopped looking all together and am MUCH better off! Thank you so much for your support and also your encouragement with MiniMiller, happy holidays! 🙂

  • Edith says:

    Hi Macy,

    Just read your inspiring story which could only have been accomplished by an intelligent, thoughtful, responsible and conscientious person. I’m from Canada where the country struggled through a foreclosure crisis about 30 years ago: many people lost their homes and all the money they’d invested in them, because they bought properties they couldn’t afford, especially after mortgage rates skyrocketed and house values plummeted. I admire your talent, wisdom and creativity in finding an affordable and functional solution to your housing problem. Ignore the naysayers; you deserve a huge round of applause!.

    As for the unkind comments on your family, ignore them, too. People seem to forget that today’s families exist in many different forms; some parents live away from their children for extended periods because of work obligations. Love, maturity and respect are what make a family successful. Enjoy your new baby!

    Edith

  • foxbins says:

    Oh, Macy, I am so sorry some people felt the need to criticize your choices and made you feel bad. I have followed your blog since just before you got Denny and I have always admired your courageous and generous spirit. It makes me sad to think that people who don’t know you would be mean, but the realist in me knows that some folks’ lives are so small they need to dump on other people’s joy.

    Please keep blogging and I’ll keep reading and give Denny a big hug.

  • Lindsay says:

    I wanted to stop by just to tell you how inspiring your story is. I’ve never really liked the idea of needing to have big things as a measure of success and happiness… Your Tiny House is a wonderful example of the joy in simplicity and detail. I love it!

  • I love your house. It’s adorable, and you built it yourself!

    I think the advent of the internet age means that people can be, well, MEAN. They say / write things that they would NEVER have the guts to say to someone’s face, because of the anonymity factor. It’s hard to be mean to a real person, when over the ‘net you can “hate on” someone that you don’t know.

    I see this in the whole liberal/ conservative arguments, the working mother/ stay at home mother arguments, the fit/ fat arguments. It’s easier to hate something without a face.

    You are totally right that a baby doesn’t have to take up much space (Mr. Money Mustache has a really good blog post on how little a baby needs). It is ALL too easy to let the “stuff” grow and take over though. I have a husband and 2 kids in about 1100 sf. My “baby” is 17 months. A co-sleeper works fine. I’d skip the high chair altogether (a booster that you clip onto a regular chair worked better for us).

    I personally love the tiny house movement and am constantly looking at ways to help us live more lightly in our current house and not “outgrow” it.

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you for the tips Marcia, particularly with the kiddos, there is SO much for me to learn there still, I’ll be picking it up fast! 🙂 Thank you very much for your encouragement and kindness, happy holidays to you and your family!

  • You’re getting attention because your house is beautiful! So many tiny houses are just thrown together, with no thought to design principles – so it’s a real joy to see a well-designed, and well-executed house.

    Don’t let the jerks get you down. Tall poppy syndrome sucks!

  • Michael says:

    Hello Macy. You are missing some information that might be beneficial to you. Here it is; almost four percent of the human race are psychopaths or sociopaths. Such people drive the others around them crazy. So add another fifteen or so percent to that number and you’ve got nearly twenty percent of the human race functioning in a slightly or severely loony way.

    Those people like to bring others down. It is deliberate on their part. They feel the need to bring others down because having people stronger than them causes great fear. They fear that the strong people will somehow attack them. It is just the way they operate to survive. Most of these crazy people seem to function normally. They have jobs and aren’t robbers or murderers. They just do everything they can to covertly bring down others, mostly by spreading lies and criticizing good work. They are too fearful of others to do anything directly. Nonetheless they are insane.

    So don’t ever again be upset with comments that are negative regarding you or your house. Realize that there are crazy people out there. They fear successful people. You are successful and a bit ahead of the curve. You were courageous enough to do something different. You stand out.

    From now on realize that when you get harsh criticism or outright attacked verbally or in print, you are probably encountering an insane person. Most of us don’t think in these terms but we must. Scientists have done brain scans on such people and it was found that the area of the brain that is used for empathy and affection doesn’t function in these people. That is how the four percent number was calculated.

    Chin up. Keep being you. If you enjoy helping others learn about what you’ve done then keep it up. When you’ve had enough of it then just stop. It’s your life.

    Thank you for inspiring me and others with what you’ve done.

    Michael

  • Jessica says:

    Damn, Macy. I just broke my number one rule and went to read Internet comments (on Yahoo). A lot of bloggers call legit criticism “bullying,” which bothers me, but what most of the negative comments were toward you? That was definitely bullying. I stopped at the one where the guy called you a liar and a manipulator because OBVIOUSLY you pay more per month in propane than you say (why the fuck would anyone lie about that?). And I was getting riled up over the usual bullshit of people saying that an RV/mobile home is so much cheaper, the usual crap. Yes, an uninsulated metal box made in China is cheaper than a stick-built home on a heavy-duty flatbed trailer.

    Anyway, your house is gorgeous, I applaud you for writing about any of this and addressing the criticism head-on. I hope we don’t get famous from our house when it’s finished. I don’t think I could take it. 😉

    • Macy M says:

      I agree with you, I would hate to be too sensitive to legit criticism, they brought it to a very personal level though, damn them! 🙂 Really, it’s none of my business what others think of me though… 🙂 I’ve been MUCH better since just shutting it all out! 🙂 I hope you don’t have to face any assholes either! but if you do just stop looking! 🙂 I think you and your guy are pretty awesome, thank you for being really awesome! 🙂 and of course for your continued support!

  • Jill Pearson says:

    Good for you! Your house and story have always been one of my favorites and quite an inspiration to me, even though I’ve had to put my tiny house dream on a shelf for a little while. Sometimes, people just suck, try not to let these sad little strangers get to you 😦 Best of luck with everything moving forward and hopefully I’ll get to meet you (and maybe see the house in person??) at the conference in April!
    Jill

    • Macy M says:

      Wewt! I will be there in person, the house will not be making the journey, 2500 miles would give me a heart attack! 🙂 I am so excited to hear I get to meet you though!!! 🙂 Thank you for your support, I hope you can dust oof your TH dream soon, let me know if I can ever help! 🙂

  • John Bradley says:

    I have read your blog for less than a week. Having found you through viral nova. I already adore your house, blog, dog and everything about your life. I hope that males up in a small way for the empty headed haters out there. I went RV. I will probably go either teardrop or small house down the road.

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you so much John, I am glad you enjoy it all, I am pretty partial to it myself! Sometimes people can just be staggering! But there ARE far more good guys than unhappy downers! Thank you for your kindness and good luck now and down the road! (there are some REALLY cool teardrops out there!)

  • sonrie says:

    I found my way here from Yahoo, as well. I just wanted to agree with other commenters that haters are such an energy drain. I had no idea (but should not have been surprised) that you have received so much negative feedback. I clicked over to say that I love your house – it is totally cute, and though I live in a 950sqft home, and don’t know if i could go smaller, I really admire your abilities and drive. Good luck with becoming a mom, too – that will be lifechanging.

  • shaye says:

    You’re wonderful. Keep doing what you do and focusing on all the positive energy coming your way – there is a hell of a lot of it. Any negative comments are not made out of hate – but out of fear. Your tiny house rocks and I am betting your kid will grow up beautifully. Lots of love, Shaye (A tiny house dweller from New Zealand! – Also building a strawbale house in the coming few years!)

  • Darlene Lehman says:

    Well said!! Hope you have a Joyous Holiday Season!

  • drkathie says:

    Glad you are shaking off the negativity! It is wonderful and precious that you are letting yourself follow your own dreams! Very inspirational! The vitality of living a deeply meaningful life is well worth the pain and tears that will sometimes come with it. I suspect you will be an awesome mom. 🙂

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you SO much for your kind suspicions! 🙂 You are absolutely right, it’s hard to take at the time but it’s good to shake off ASAP and keep on going! Happy holidays to you and yours!

      • I love your home!!! I honestly don’t know what any negatives there are in this scenario with your house, it’s a freaking home, how people can turn that into something negative astounds me. I love it and I wish I had it. It’s very pretty, homey and stylish. Sorry about your broken back, crap that sucks, but happy to hear you are having a baby. Out of the dark there is always the light, your child. Stay positive, this is your life and if others don’t get it or like it, well, okay. That’s just their opinion. You have to live your life as you see fit. Can’t wait to read more about your life and your home. Thank you for sharing all this with the world.

  • Cara says:

    I just read the Yahoo story. I’m fascinated with your ingenuity and creativity. My hubby and I have a large family and we live green by necessity. Funny how that works. :0) Some day when Hubby and I have fewer kiddos at home, we may downsize. I’d love to do something more minimalist. Mother Teresa said, “Everything you own owns a piece of you.”

    Ignore the bottom feeders who leave negative comments. The internet seems to be a gathering place for people who have no life and love to flame people for sport online. Pay attention to the nice people and let the trolls go back under their bridges.

    Blessings to you, your wee one and your Baby Daddy. ❤

    • Macy M says:

      Thank you Cara for your kind words! I couldn’t agree more with your words! Thank you for taking the time to contact me, I wish you ad yours a very warm and merry holiday!

  • Your story has been one of the most popular ones featured on my ATT homepage for nearly a week and let me just say “YOU ROCK!!!!”

    As someone who blogs about our unsustainability of using more and more resources to fuel a life of sitting on the couch, eating cheese puff and watching “Dancing With The Stars”, I’ve fielded my share of idiot comments.

    Don’t grow a thick skin, just be a duck. Let the negative comments slide off you and keep paddling across the pond. The rest of us mallards welcome you with open wings.

    • Macy M says:

      Oh wow, I know of a couple posts but that’s nuts I’ve been popular for a week! Thank you! Good call about being a duck, I don’t want such thick skin I become hard to the world! Thank you SO much for your kindness! Could you possibly link me to your site? I’d love to look at it! 🙂 (and thanks for sticking up for me!) Happy Holidays!

  • takiyahnoble says:

    Macy, I can’t say that I’m surprised you are getting such negative comments from close-minded, judgmental people, but those comments are evidence that you are doing something right!!

    As another commenter said, you are absolutely challenging their understanding of the world around them and fear can and will breed sheer ugliness.

    Even more so, remember that the LEAST valuable comment is the one from a critic who sits on his/her behind and heckles the PLAYER from the sidelines. Achievers know this. Doers know this. Business people know this. The only people who haven’t clued in to this are the self-important critics themselves.

    Macy, you actually DID something and that ACTION was notable enough to command media attention. That’s how I found you… on Yahoo news. Don’t ever apologize or defend your productivity to make other unproductive people feel comfortable.

    On another note, even if you were doing this as a business promotion, So The F#@k What?
    When did it become a crime to be enterprising?

    Your showcase just educated me about something that I never knew even existed. So guess what, not only are you an innovator, you are now an educator! My head is spinning, and I’m asking myself, “Why aren’t more entrepreneurs getting tiny houses? Why aren’t more post grads getting more tiny houses? It just makes fiscal sense.”

    You are the real deal, Macy, you epitomize the mantra, “Talk less. Show more.” So, keep on showing up and showing out!

    • Macy M says:

      Wow! What a great bit of advice, every single word in this comment is impactful and you are absolutely right! Thank you SO much for taking the time to write it to me! I am SO glad I can be an innovator and an educator! You’re right though, my personal belief as to why more people don’t do this is that they simply don’t know its an option! That is one of my main goals, just expose the idea to others, it is really NOT that complex 🙂 but there are tricks to making it work! Thank you again, all the best wishes! Happy Holidays! 🙂

  • CUP + PENNY says:

    People can be such DICKS on their computers! In real life they’d be too chicken to say what they say on the internet. And how judge-y can you get? A kick-ass single woman having a baby isn’t exactly new territory, it’s almost 2014 and we’re still worried about that? And you’re absolutely right, a baby doesn’t need a lot of paraphernalia–how did our ancestors raise children without a stroller? You’re going back to your roots, Macy, doing things the way people would have done years ago. Building your own house, for Christ’s sake! You’re awesome, don’t let close-minded people tell you there’s something wrong with you because you’re different. Who would want to be like them anyway?

    • Macy M says:

      You are absolutely right! There are always people that know better… I have been congratulated for ‘keeping the baby’ as if I even considered the other option at this point, I mean I’m 30 years old, I can handle a kid 🙂 but even if I chose differently it’s no one else business, the funniest part is I am not exactly ‘single’, I mean the dad is involved, very involved, I just keep him off the website so people assume I am ‘single’ and ‘should put a ring on his finger’ (that one made me laugh).
      The stroller comment is one of my go-to retorts, its amazing how many people seriously do not believe you can possibly raise a kid without all the ‘things’ they my be convenient at times but I really don’t think they should be classified and ‘necessary’! We would not be here if they were! People just have a lot of opinions… in my opinion 🙂
      Thank you as always for your support! You’re wonderful! I hope you had a great Christmas and an even better 2014!

  • I feel blessed to have stumbled upon your blog. You are a great writer and an amazing person with a good heart. Best wishes to you.

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